Some years ago, James Ingram sang a song entitled ‘Find one hundred ways’. In it, he said ‘Being cool won’t help you keep a love warm; you’ll just blow your only chance’. This is a fact.

I have also preached several times on ‘One hundred ways to love your spouse’. Husbands and wives have to find at least one hundred ways to love their spouses. This is what will save and keep the marriage together, sweet to the end.

, Fred told his wife, Moni, “Today, I’m encouraging wives to find one hundred ways to love their husbands. Be there for him, don’t be against him. In one of my novels

Moni didn’t like that statement. How could he say she reminded him of his mother, that – that woman? Everything she was doing as his wife was in his best interest. She didn’t say anything but tightened her lips as she listened to him.

Fred continued. “You were always telling me what to say, what to do. That’s number one.”

She wrote control down without talking.

“Number two, I can’t remember the last time you complimented me. All I heard was criticism. It was as if I couldn’t do things right anymore. It was the same with my mother when I was growing up. If I laughed, she would ask, why did you laugh? ….

Fred was still talking. “… But what I wanted was a woman, a wife, a wife who would love me, who would see me as her husband, not just the father of her children.”

She wrote be a wife not a mother.

He continued, “You never made the first move or kissed me. And if I initiated it, you would turn me down or refuse to respond. And that hurt me a lot.”

She knew turning him down or refusing to respond hurt him. She was doing it to hurt him.

’, having chosen to marry your husband, choose to remain married to him, love him and make your marriage work. Marriage is not a bed of roses, it is a hard work but when we do what we are supposed to do, we will discover that it is worth every effort.No wonder their marriage was struggling. As I said in my book ‘. (Proverbs 31:17,25)‘

Here are some of the ‘one hundred ways’ wives should love their husbands.

1. Compliment him often.
2. Encourage him.
3. Initiate lovemaking from time to time. And when he wants you, don’t turn him down.
4. Enjoy and participate during love making.
5. Let him know he’s important to you.
6. Respond to his requests.
7. Value his opinion.
8. Appreciate the things he does for you.
9. Learn to praise him.
10. Pray for and with him.
11. Respect him.
12. Listen when he’s talking.
13. Talk with him, don’t push or close him out of your life.
14. Talk to him, chat with him, ask how his day has been.
15. Show interest in what he is doing or likes.
16. Tell him you love him.
17. Touch and hug him often, be romantic.
18. Play and laugh with him.
19. Be his number one cheerleader.
20. Know what he wants and abide by it. That is submission.
21. Don’t criticise him, watch your words.
22. Forgive him.
23. Accept him the way he is, don’t try to change him.
24. Create time for him, give him attention.
25. Overlook small issues.
26. Be nice to him.
27. Honour him.
28. Be thoughtful and considerate of his feelings.
29. Give him gifts.
30. Go out of your way to spoil him.
31. Try to do the things he cannot do for himself.
32. Keep him fed.
33. Do things he should do for himself but doesn’t have time for, such as getting a gift ready for his friend.
34. Be gentle.
35. Assist financially.
36. Prepare his favourite dishes.